Why feeling satisfied is the key to getting what you want

I recently got to see Esther Hicks, inspirational speaker and best-selling author, and the spiritual entity known as Abraham. I have followed the teachings of Abraham for years but this was my first time being in the same room. If you haven’t heard of Abraham, and are interested, you can find hundreds if not thousands of videos of Esther and Abraham on YouTube. I wasn’t expecting to hear anything new but I did hear something that either I hadn’t picked up on before or that struck me as new.

The easiest way to manifest want you want is to cultivate a state of “satisfaction.”

A state of satisfaction is soft and non-resistant. A state of satisfaction is playful, intuitive and relaxed. And although I’ve heard Abraham say similar things I’d never heard it put quite in this way. 

You don’t have to feel satisfied about what you don’t have

Over and over again, Abraham repeated that this state didn’t have to be in relation to what you were trying to achieve or change about your life. If you want to make more money, you don’t have to feel satisfied with your financial situation. If you want to find a partner, you don’t have to feel satisfied being alone. In fact, that would be impossible. But you could be satisfied about the flowers growing outside your window. Or the great workout you just had.

There are no levels to feeling satisfied, all that matters is that it puts you into a receptive state of being. As you cultivate a sense of satisfaction, you build momentum, and take actions that align with the people and opportunities that will bring about what you desire faster. To some this will seem like serendipity, to you it will be evidence that mastering how and what you choose to think about is working. 

Why I keep reading these books over and over again

I’ve read Abraham’s books, Ask and It Is Given and the Astonishing Power of Emotions, each several times. I read them because I like being reminded that managing our inner world is the most important of our many jobs. What we think about matters. What we think over and over again shapes our interactions, colors our outlook, and informs our experiences.

Tools we can all use

As an accountability coach, I help people overcome their obstacles to reach their goals. At the start of a new Accountability Works session we always ask, “what is your biggest challenge right now?” 

Nine times out of ten our members will respond that their biggest challenge is in one way or another – themselves.

I am getting in my own way.

I am the bottleneck in my business.

I am fearful of making changes.

Which are also different ways of saying you are resisting exactly the thing you want to create. So anytime I discover a new tool for dealing with resistance I’m excited. And that is just what I saw the teaching I was receiving from Abraham that day as, a new tool.

The exercise

The exercise that Abraham gave us for switching to a state of satisfaction was to mentally list out the things that were going well in our lives. It could be as small as I really like my pillow to as big as I love the work I do in the world. As long as you could come up with several items to stick on your list at any given moment you would be able to move away from resistance and towards satisfaction. The more things you could think of to add to your list the better.

The more you make feeling satisfied a habit, the less resistant you are, the more action you take, and the faster you build momentum. I always like tools that work from the inside out because they touch so many different parts of our lives. The nice thing is that you can do this anytime, anywhere, and it takes only as long as it takes to think through your list.

In conclusion

If you want the things you are working on or envisioning to come faster:

  1. Practice feeling satisfied. Focusing your attention on the things that are going well. Make a list if that’s helpful.
  2. Get clear about what it is that you want but don’t focus on not having it.
  3. Take action. When action feels difficult (resistance) go back to step 1.

Let me know what you think in the comments below and definitely keep me in the loop if you adopt this practice. Also, if you like this article please share it!

P.S. Here is a picture of me and my beautiful sister, Mia, at the workshop. Can you tell we are excited?